Live Your Best Life!
Live your best life is mantra, a declaration, a celebration of our existence and oneness. Throughout my journey of healing and my awakening, I’ve connected with the most amazing people and have found that I respond best to those who are loving and kind, who wouldn’t, right? But seriously, I’ve met some amazing people in my life, and I’ve been encouraged to live my best life by watching mentors walking the walk if you will. We have this influential ability as human beings (think monkey see – monkey do) to mentor others and lead the way by example. And what I’ve found to be profoundly impactful, is our ability to encourage one another through gratitude, respect, compassion, empathy, and loving-kindness. When embodying these values, we can see a lasting and positive impact and connection within our families, friendships, workplaces, and communities. Core concepts include gratitude, reverence for all beings, compassion, empathy, and loving-kindness; we also talk about incorporating wellness principles in our lives, like education, spirituality, meditation, and health. These are topics of conversation and action within my community, my tribe. Together we are actively embodying the values that make connection and loving-kindness thrive! As a counselor, mentor, leader, and believer that God and the Universe have our back, and that we can manifest the life we want, leads me to my new mantra, for me to live my best life, and create space for others to do the same. I look forward to walking side by side with you to grow and learn and create a great life, moment to moment, full of bliss and blessings. Mission Statement: To educate, empower, and embolden beautiful souls on the healing benefits of counseling and wellness. To inspire others to ‘live your best life’ through the development and practice of gratitude, reverence, compassion, and empathy. Vision Statement: To lead by example, to cherish life, live spiritually, celebrate our oneness, and connect with other like-minded people who believe in living your best life. As a counselor, mentor, leader, and believer that God and the Universe have our back, and that we can manifest the life we want, leads me to my new mantra, for me to live my best life, and create space for others to do the same. I look forward to walking side by side with you to grow and learn and create a great life, moment to moment, full of bliss and blessings. Namaste! When I was unhappy, I would say, when people would ask how I'm doing, I would day, "living the dream." And we've heard this from our friends and family, people at work, on social media and television and movies, and it's this flash light on our culture that shows how cynical and sarcastic we've become, and settled into accepting the cards we've been dealt instead of celebrating life, and we can do that when we embrace living your best life now. When I'm at home, and I'm writing in my gratitude journal, or adding a trinket or document to my happiness jar, I often look at my plants. If you've been on my Instagram it's a celebration of my connection with plants #plantmom and I love my plant babies. And I watch them and I think about when I brought them home, and the growth cycles they go through, the ups and downs, and how they are thriving and it's a daily reminder, a huge ah-ha for me, that we exist, but are we celebrating that? And so often I think the answer is no because we're stuck in routine and facade and nonsense, when we can simply celebrate who we are, a wonder of nature, a thriving, beautiful, complex, needy, moody - I mean right? Plants teach me so much about the human condition, and my reaction to them - how long is she going to talk about plants? LOL…So I brought home a Ficus Aubrey, and the horticulturist was like - oh she's less finicky than the fiddle (the fiddle leaf fig) which I've never had issues with so I'm like, I got this. And we do that in life, right? We say to a brand-new situation, Oh I've done something like this before so I've got this, but life is so complicated and the situation is new, we have no idea how it's going to play out, but we downplay or overinflate our capabilities, our ego wakes up, right? And takes charge, and then we fail, the Ficus Aubrey is fine now if ya'll are worried about her, it was touch and go there for a bit but we're in a good place! Few! Because it hurts me if they're hurting (the plants) because I do believe we have a connection to all living things and to take care of them is important, like caring for each other, it's important. Compassion and empathy make lasting impressions on people. We've heard the saying, they may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel. That's powerful. For example, my plants, they'll show me how they feel, if they droop, or change color, or drop leaves or reach up, they're communicating a need, and as people we also communicate and need others, we need connection, we all want healing, we all want to be loved and accepted, right? That's a fundamental human right, to be treated with dignity and respect. We do this thing where if we’re stuck in a routine, we never leave it – I encourage people to take chances, try new things, and celebrate this amazing life! #livingmybestlife To connect with Lauren, visit www.laurencorsillo.orgSending you loving-kindness, Lauren
Welcome TO TULSA
Welcome to Tulsa, OK! What a journey, and I couldn’t have done it without the support of my loves, my God, and the universe. And my daily gratitude and meditation practice, which I’ll share with you now. It’s a daily practice, being optimistic. I write in my gratitude journal, I identify three good things in my life (thanks Shawn Achor), and Chuck and I have a happiness jar that we add to regularly, and we read our gratitudes aloud on New Year’s Day (thank you Liz Gilbert)! Wherever you go, there you are! I bring my life and my progress and my authentic self with me now wherever I go. I said goodbye to my ego-driven life a while back, and it was the best decision I ever made. I asked for help, and I received it in spades! I’ve always loved that idiom…to have a lot of something, to live a life of abundance. But when it came to help, I needed it, a lot of help, and God and Universe provided. Life is a journey, and I had to walk through the storm of my past with some amazing healers, to come out the other side a healed and whole woman. I went from having walls that held a lot of pain and anger and tears and unresolved trauma, to being open and living an authentic life filled with connection to friends, to family, and to myself. My inner dialogue improved, and I rekindled the light inside myself. My self-worth, my freedom, my desires, all came back to me, and I was living a new chapter of my life in Atlanta, Georgia. Which brings me to Tulsa…I had no idea that the universe was going to send me to Tulsa, Oklahoma, but I knew I had to go. I agreed to follow my husband, my person, as he accepted a promotion and a new role with his company. I knew that God and the universe had our back,even though I knew I’d miss my friends and my career that I’d built would have to be on hold for a minute. We have a saying in our house, it’ll work out, or it’ll work out.” And so it is… Now I find myself in this new, sunny, vibrant, slower-paced city. I’ve found a small soul tribe that I invite over to my home once a week, our Gratitude and Meditation Circle, where we gather to pray, share in our daily gratitude, and meditate (thank you Calm app). I’m so blessed that I’ve found a practice partner with, and I will soon be an LPC in the state of Oklahoma. I’m grateful that I didn’t jump into my career when we moved. I took time to heal, to mourn my mom, to mourn my life in Atlanta, and to take some time to simply be, to reap what I’ve sown. I’ve been fast paced my whole life, I’ve always worked a full-time job, I’ve never really taken more than a two-week break. I’m grateful for the past few months and what I’ve learned. I created space, I let work take a back seat to my life, I experienced what it felt like to slow down. And it wasn’t easy! My self-talk was urging me to get after it, to hustle hard. But what could I do? In my heart I wasn’t ready, I needed time to heal, to rest, to read, to meditate, to take trips and visit with friends and family. I’ve also planned future vacations to places on my bucket list (Greece 2020)! Today I can look back on the past few months and see my progress. And I’ve taken time to grow in my hobbies, too! Interior design, feng shui, and horticulture! I love our new home, new connections, and our new plant babies! And I look forward to what is coming next. I set the intention a while back that in the fall I will be ready to get back into the counseling chair. And so it is. More on that next time my friends! May you be well, full of love, joy and happiness, LC
Find Your Soul Tribe
I want to take a moment to give a loving shout-out to the amazing women involved in the International Interfaith Women’s Group and Gratitude Meditation Circle. Thank you for your love and open hearts, and for the opportunity to meditate and pray with you weekly. As I start my new journey in Tulsa, Oklahoma, I take your ideals, values, open hearts and minds with me to cultivate new connections in gratitude, love, and community. I’ve had an amazing week here in Tulsa, Oklahoma. This will be my new home and I’m excited to make new connections and friendships, especially in the meditation and wellness arena. There are so many open minded, wonderful people here practicing holistic wellness, helping people heal from pain, anxiety, depression, and stress. And to my friends across the country helping people grow spiritually, I thank you and I love you. I believe we’re all here on this earth to lead a happy and healthy life, however, many of us are on the bridge between sickness and health, frequently retreating back to old unhealthy patterns that cause illness mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. By reaching out to cultivate your tribe, therein lies your release from isolation and hopelessness. I’ve had the honor in my life to meet exceptional loving beings practicing the art of healing, from counselors to yogis, reiki practitioners, spiritual gurus, meditation teachers, vibrational healing, sound meditations, sensory deprivation float tanks, spiritual retreats, time in nature, energy spots, etc. Cultivating a community of healers offers an individual the time, energy, ‘ah-ha’ moments, and safe space needed for a spiritual awakening. When I think of the value of a tribe that’s primary reason for creation is spiritual growth, and when it comes from a place of love, I can’t tell you the invaluable nature of such a group. From my own personal experience, the energy you get back from participating and contributing your unique, personal gifts to a tribe of like-minded, open-minded, loving souls, will bless you abundantly. My amazing tribe of women has been there for me during the most difficult time. I shared in my last blog post about losing my mama, she’s dancing with the angels now, teaching them how to have a good time, dancing, singing, and enjoying her new journey. When my mom passed away, my tribe was an abundant source of support and love – there was an outpouring of love and support. This gave me stability, grounding, and a routine. We met every Wednesday to pray, we shared equally in heartache, in celebration, and in gratitude. We meditated through vibrational healing or sound meditations (crystal bowls, Tibetan singing bowls, and spirit drums). We listened to meditations from thought leaders (Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Oprah, to name a few), and we shared on what spoke to us on a deep, personal level. We prayed our most sacred prayers, from all walks of faith, without judgement, with pure love, empathy, and a deep understanding that we are all one. We also danced, sang songs and celebrated life! I’ve had the honor and pleasure to participate in retreats and travel across the country on with these lovely women, my soul tribe, and I have created memories and friendships that will last forever. If you’re reading this, and your soul is yearning for a tribe, begin to connect with your authentic self, meditate, pray, enjoy quiet time, take care of yourself, listen to your intuition, take chances, say yes, and follow your instincts. Seek out practitioners that will help you to deepen your spiritual practice, and you’ll have a tribe for life! It’s all about you, this is your spiritual journey, and it doesn’t have to cost a lot. Like any problem, you can through money at it, or you can invest in yourself, by investing your time and energy in cultivating an authentic, happy relationship with yourself. I invite you to reach out – find someone in your area that walks the walk, and if you have questions, give me a call, I’m here for you. I’ll leave you with this thought; a Soul Tribe is a group of spiritually awake, authentic, loving souls, connected by universal truths that create, consistently, a safe space for personal growth and change, without agenda, ego, or monetary gain. This is more than a community; and this is needed in our personal life if we are to experience transformative, spiritual-level growth and change. What would it be like to wake up spiritually? What would it feel like to experience an outpouring of love, abundance, blessings, and enlightenment? The highest level of happiness, abundance and love? I urge you to take the time to do this, to make time for personal growth, to grow your spiritual side, to ignite the spiritual light that resides in all of us. We are one my friends, and we don’t have to go it alone. Sending you loving-kindness today and always, LC
Grief, Love and Loss
My spiritual growth has helped me through the shock of last week…on Monday, March 11th at 1:15am, my beautiful mom’s spirit was ready to leave this world, she passed away peacefully in her sleep. I reached out on Facebook to share this news, and received so much support; my post read: My mom, she’s passed away this morning, they said cardiac arrest, and she passed in her sleep, I know her lovely spirit is with me now and always, her love and her light shines for us in eternity. I love you mom! We’ll have a mass for mom this Friday at 11:00am at St. Collette Catholic Church 330 W 130th St, Brunswick, OH 44212 followed by a Celebrate her Life luncheon at the Fraternal Order of Eagles 349 Pearl Rd, Brunswick, OH 44212. Thank you for your love and prayers and kind words. Mom lives on in our story, my wild and free mama is soaring with the Angels now and I’m sure having a blast in her new spiritual plane! Love you mama! Thank you to our amazing friends and family for helping us today, I’d be lost without you, our family is wrapped in love and help, thank you! If you’d like please post or text me pics I’m gathering memories and photos, stories and happy times, mom loved smiling and dancing and singing and celebrating life - mom you’re with us and we love you!!! I’m in Brunswick all week and can be reached at 216-704-3246 or message me - thank you! I spent the week with family and friends, and received so many texts, pictures, calls, and stories about my mom, Diane Collins. Together with my husband, Chuck, my brother, Christopher, and our dad, Larry, we planned a Catholic Funeral Mass and a Celebration of Life luncheon. The mass at St. Colette’s was so beautiful. Father Bob from St. Ambrose said the mostly lovely words and spoke to mom’s love for life. Deacon Tom helped us plan the mass, my aunts helped choose the readings (my brother Chris read the first reading and I read the second reading – so hard by the way, I was tearful but then felt love and light as I continued, it was a very special moment). Being surrounded by so much love, and by the people who loved her, helped me tremendously. I never felt alone, I always felt loved and supported. In choosing songs and readings for mass, we would read each one aloud until it felt and sounded like mom, we all could hear her and feel her in the words we read aloud. Mom loved music, the organist and the singer at church were fantastic. I was so moved when she sang “In the Garden,” mom was known in the community and among our family and friends for her love of flowers and plants, and her amazing garden and intuitive green thumb. She made everything beautiful. I was moved by the sea of loving faces at mass, and hugs from friends and family I haven’t seen for many years. Life takes us in many directions, and this event brought us together in love and in memory of my amazing mama. Connection and love – that was a resounding theme all week. Our close family friends helped to plan the amazing celebration of life luncheon. I would have been lost without the group texts from friends and family to help organize food, photos, flowers, and all the details that went into this event. I’m grateful to the Eagles club for honoring my mom, and hosting the event; I’m so grateful to Carol and the ladies who cooked the delicious meal. We ate food and shared stories about mom, and it was nice being together again, it had been a while since we’d all been together. I felt mom was with me the whole week, especially at night when it was hard to sleep. She was 67 when she passed; 6 + 7 = 13, one of our special numbers. She would have been 68 on Wednesday. It was hard waking up on her birthday, I would call her and sing her happy birthday, and we’d talk about our day and plan our next mother-daughter get together; we were talking about going to Sedona, I just got back from a girls-trip in Sedona and it was amazing. I’m so glad we had so many memories together, she was so easy to talk to. I loved looking through pictures of her life; grade school, school dances, parties, vacations, all the hair styles and fashion she rocked in her 20’s and 30’s. She lived life fully, and was unapologetically and authentically herself. My beautiful mama, Diane, touched so many lives, we will miss you and we love you. Xoxo,Lauren
Self-Care and Self-Love Resources
I had the pleasure of talking with several people at Alpharetta Wellness Collective’s “Be Your Own Valentine; a self-care, self-love event” this past Saturday. Participants had the opportunity to sit with each practitioner to create their self-love, self-care plan. My area of wellness focused on participants learning about the Wellness Wheel, and how to create a Self-Care check list of their very own. We also practiced a Loving-Kindness Meditation. As promised, here are my resources: Eight Dimensions of Wellness“There are eight dimensions of wellness: occupational, emotional, spiritual, environmental, financial, physical, social, and intellectual. Each dimension of wellness is interrelated with another. Each dimension is equally vital in the pursuit of optimum health. One can reach an optimal level of wellness by understanding how to maintain and optimize each of the dimensions of wellness.” What is Wellness?Wellness Wheel. Self-Care Check List “The Self-Care Plan that you create for yourself should be customized to fit your own needs and personality. Use the time you spend going through the lists below to highlight actions that resonate with you to include in your Self-Care Plan. Assemble a mix of things you can do in the morning, throughout the day, and at night.” Self Care Inventory. Self Care Checklist. Loving-Kindness Meditation“Loving-kindness, compassion, sympathetic joy and equanimity are rigorous meditation practices, used for the most part to cultivate one-pointed concentrated attention, out of which the powers of these evoked qualities emerge, transfiguring the heart. Just naming these qualities of heart explicitly and making their role explicit in our practice may help us to recognize them when they arise spontaneously during mindfulness practice. As well as to incline the heart and mind in that direction more frequently, especially in difficult times.” This Loving Kindness Meditation is a Radical Act of Love. Loving Kindness Heartscape Meditation from Jon Kabat-Zinn.
““The energy of the mind is the essence of life.” -Aristotle