The Practice of Forgiveness
‘The Book of Forgiving’, written by Archbishop Desmond Tutu, (one of South Africa's most well- known human rights activists, winning the 1984 Nobel Peace Prize for his efforts in resolving and ending apartheid), and his daughter Mpho Tutu Van Furth (a priest, a writer, a wife, mother an artist, a theologian and a public speaker, who’s mission it is to create a world that is good for girls), begins with sharing. “Two simple truths: there is nothing that cannot be forgiven, and there is no one undeserving of forgiveness….In each of us, there is an innate ability to create joy out of suffering, to find hope in the most hopeless of situation, and to heal any relationship in need of healing.” As a mindfulness meditation practitioner, therapist, and healer, I often get questions around forgiveness, and I sight references or stories on the topic to help aide in the persons healing. We all have a story, yes? Desmond Tutu writes: “I face the same choice: to forgive or to seek revenge. We face this choice of whether or not to forgive as individuals, as families, as communities, and as a deeply connected world. The quality of human life on our planet is nothing more than the sum total of our daily interactions with one another. Each time we help, each time we harm, we have a dramatic impact on our world.” In this profound book, ‘The Book of Forgiving’ you are invited to “explore each aspect of the Fourfold Path of forgiving: Telling the Story, Naming the Hurt, Granting Forgiveness, and Renewing or Releasing the Relationship…. Forgiveness is nothing less than the way we heal the world. We heal the world by healing each and every one of our hearts.” I’ve also enjoyed reading ‘The Book of Joy’ with Archbishop Desmond Tutu and his holiness the Dalai Lama, another good read on your journey to healing. Another book that’s worth a look is “Why Won’t You Apologize?” by Harriet Lerner, Ph.D. She writes: “The healing power of a good apology is also immediately recognizable. When someone offers me a genuine apology, I feel relieved and soothed. Whatever anger and resentment I may still be harboring melts away. I also feel better when I offer an apology I know is due. I’m enormously grateful that I can repair the disconnection after having made a mistake or acted badly.” She goes on say, “Perhaps the most painful issue in the apology lexicon is coming to terms with the non-repentant wrongdoer. This is a universal human challenge for which forgiveness is the prescribed solution of the day…you do not need to forgive the person who has hurt you in order to free yourself from obsessive anger and bitterness…We take turns at being the offender and the offended until our very last breath. It’s reassuring to know that we have the possibility to set things right, or at least to know that we have brought our best selves to the task at hand, however the other person responds.” This book is powerful and contains insights into authentic, genuine apologies, and engages the reader with some humor and real-life examples of good and not-so-good apologies (we’ve all experienced empty ‘I’m Sorry’ moments), definitely worth the read! If you have any books or insights you’d like to share please do so! Everyone’s healing journey is different, and I encourage my readers and my clients to read and have conversations and practice the art of forgives in a way that feels right to them, while also enlisting help and insight from clinicians and thought leaders that are experts in this field. The more we work together towards healing, the better! You’re not in this journey alone, reach out if you need assistance working through past hurts. May you be filled with loving-kindness. Namaste.
The Art of Feng Shui; Practical application for all
I don’t know if ya’ll have noticed lately, but people are really starting to connect to the energy in and around them. My clients often ask, how can I create a peaceful, Zen, organized vibe in my home or office, and my answer is, Feng Shui! I’ve been using Feng Shui for years and have read and applied many techniques in my home and office. And I’ve moved a few times (both home and office) so I’ve had a lot of practice myself! I’ve been blessed to share my joy of organized and harmonious living with my family, friends, colleagues and clients. I continue to learn and am excited to offer this wellness service in 2020! Over the years I’ve helped several people and they have noticed the difference in their energy and vibe of the space instantaneously! The way I use Feng Shui is helpful and is a blessing, and it is applied differently with each person. I am so blessed to share what I know and pass on the gift of Feng Shui to all! I recently ordered a Bagua Grid from Tina on Etsy, I just love living in this day and age when I can go online and find practical tools to use in my practice. Why re-create the wheel, when there’s a perfectly good grid out there – thank you Tina! So, I have this amazing grid, or Feng Shui Compass, to help me when I go into friends’ homes and start the process. There’s a compass reading, application, and noticeable change in chi; this happens when you focus your energy in certain spots in your home that support your intentions and reflect your inner desires. Using the grid to Fen Shui your space brings balance to your chakras, and the ability to incorporate elements and metals as well as celebrate aspects of your strengths and personality. Are you thinking about a space in your home or office that you’d like to bring balance and harmony to? If the answer is yes, ask yourself the following: What do you want your space to convey? How do you want to feel in this space? How would you like others to feel when they enter this space? What is the primary function and purpose of this space? What items do you love in this space? Which items do you not love? Where are you in this space? What items reflect a connection to your energy? What story does each item in this space tell? Where/Who are they from? What is there memory, meaning, significance? Purpose? Role? Functionality? Other thoughts about the purpose or desired effect of your space? Invite in new meaning and purpose to your space. For example, more entertaining, cooking more, praying or meditating more, doing yoga, doing work from home, better sleep, organization, fashion, focus, attention, abundance, fitness, health, connection, togetherness, reflection. Apply the Feng Shui Core Principles: Clean and cleanse your space - use healthy cleaning products, add essential oils, sage, incense, create cleaning and cleansing rituals. Remove clutter - declutter your space, get rid of duplicates, broken items, things you don’t need or use you can donate or store until you decide you’re ready to part with it. Remove negative energy items – old pictures, journals, the past that hold negative energy, or we can pray over it, cleanse it, and store it. Add positive energy Items – books, quotes, who you are now, who you’d like to become; add plants, life, meaningful items – bring in life energy, color, vibrancy, sound, have fun here, keep focus on purpose of space, and the energy it will hold When Feng Shui is balanced and the energy (chi) within you and your space is flowing: Everything has a place and space, purpose and meaning, everything holds energy You have access to and can find anything you need and use within 10-15 seconds You are aware of your feelings in this space and it’s desired effect is working Feng Shui Tools: Bagua Grid used by Feng Shui practitioner; he bagua grid is made up of a grid of nine sections which are sometimes called gua's, palaces, sections or corners. Each of these nine sections of the bagua map correspond to nine important areas of your personal lives and have their own energy field within your dwelling Cleaning supplies; wood cleaner, glass cleaner, all-purpose cleaner, favorite organic cleaning supplies like vinegar and essential oils, bathroom cleaner, duster, vacuum, rags, gloves Energy Clearing supplies; Florida water, sage, incense, crystals, Palo Santo, prayer beads Donation Bins and Storage bins – sometimes we’re not sure what we want to donate or keep, this is a process so be gentle on yourself. You can store items and visit them the following season, if they haven’t been used, consider discarding or donating items. Garbage cans and garbage bags For Best Results: Have a willingness to be open to chi and have your energy work for you Take time for reflection; journaling, prayer, meditation, creating an altar Ongoing dedication to ongoing clearing and cleansing rituals using energy clearing tools Reach out for a follow up consultation for ongoing balance and connection Reiki, Chakra Balancing, and Sound Meditations Spend time in prayer and set an intention for each space and whole of the space as well Want to connect and bring the art of Feng Shui to your space? I’m excited to work with you to bring harmony and joy into your space, and I look forward to connecting with you! I offer this as a gift of service to all, and donations or bartering is greatly appreciated. Namaste,Lauren
Reiki and Sound Healing
I love my sweet, amazing, healing, grounding crystal bowls! They’re at my home in Tulsa waiting to take the journey back to Alpharetta, GA! We’ll be re-united soon! The past 6 months I’ve been playing for my new friends in Tulsa, to you I am so grateful, for taking time to spend with me in my home and to share our love of Reiki, crystals, sound meditation, gratitude, and meditation. Many of my friends and colleagues and like-minded souls have been to my crystal bowl meditations and drum meditations, and I’ve continued to play a small group of friends out of my home. I am in love with sound healing and am so very drawn to it, so much so that I’m spending more time and resources dedicated to study and practice. An important moment for me was when I ordered my very first set of crystal healing singing bowls on September 28th 2018. I’d been playing since the beginning of 2018, eager to learn, eager to heal myself and others and to share my healing journey with others. When I say healing sound, check this out: My personal set of seven (7) bowls provides 440HZ of healing sound vibration! Each crystal healing bowl has its own note and represents a chakra: 6” Note B represents the seventh or Crown Chakra7” Note A represents the sixth or Third Eye Chakra8” Note G represents the fifth or Throat Chakra9” Note F represents the fourth or Heart Chakra10” Note E represents the third or Solar Plexus Chakra11” Note D represents the second or Sacral Chakra12” Note C represents the first or Root Chakra I have a special 16” crystal bowl, I’ll have to check the Note and HZ for ya’ll and will post that soon! My intent is to educate, heal, and thrive with my good vibe tribe! As I learn more about Reiki and hone my skills as a practitioner, I am so grateful to share my healing touch with each of you through Reiki and Sound Healing! Shout out to the Open Mind Center and Charmaine Taylor for your love, guidance, and healing touch! Energy follows intent! So excited to feel dedicated and purposeful! Check out my Social Media pages for updates, and I’ll talk to you soon! Sending you loving-kindness, Lauren
Live Your Best Life!
Live your best life is mantra, a declaration, a celebration of our existence and oneness. Throughout my journey of healing and my awakening, I’ve connected with the most amazing people and have found that I respond best to those who are loving and kind, who wouldn’t, right? But seriously, I’ve met some amazing people in my life, and I’ve been encouraged to live my best life by watching mentors walking the walk if you will. We have this influential ability as human beings (think monkey see – monkey do) to mentor others and lead the way by example. And what I’ve found to be profoundly impactful, is our ability to encourage one another through gratitude, respect, compassion, empathy, and loving-kindness. When embodying these values, we can see a lasting and positive impact and connection within our families, friendships, workplaces, and communities. Core concepts include gratitude, reverence for all beings, compassion, empathy, and loving-kindness; we also talk about incorporating wellness principles in our lives, like education, spirituality, meditation, and health. These are topics of conversation and action within my community, my tribe. Together we are actively embodying the values that make connection and loving-kindness thrive! As a counselor, mentor, leader, and believer that God and the Universe have our back, and that we can manifest the life we want, leads me to my new mantra, for me to live my best life, and create space for others to do the same. I look forward to walking side by side with you to grow and learn and create a great life, moment to moment, full of bliss and blessings. Mission Statement: To educate, empower, and embolden beautiful souls on the healing benefits of counseling and wellness. To inspire others to ‘live your best life’ through the development and practice of gratitude, reverence, compassion, and empathy. Vision Statement: To lead by example, to cherish life, live spiritually, celebrate our oneness, and connect with other like-minded people who believe in living your best life. As a counselor, mentor, leader, and believer that God and the Universe have our back, and that we can manifest the life we want, leads me to my new mantra, for me to live my best life, and create space for others to do the same. I look forward to walking side by side with you to grow and learn and create a great life, moment to moment, full of bliss and blessings. Namaste! When I was unhappy, I would say, when people would ask how I'm doing, I would day, "living the dream." And we've heard this from our friends and family, people at work, on social media and television and movies, and it's this flash light on our culture that shows how cynical and sarcastic we've become, and settled into accepting the cards we've been dealt instead of celebrating life, and we can do that when we embrace living your best life now. When I'm at home, and I'm writing in my gratitude journal, or adding a trinket or document to my happiness jar, I often look at my plants. If you've been on my Instagram it's a celebration of my connection with plants #plantmom and I love my plant babies. And I watch them and I think about when I brought them home, and the growth cycles they go through, the ups and downs, and how they are thriving and it's a daily reminder, a huge ah-ha for me, that we exist, but are we celebrating that? And so often I think the answer is no because we're stuck in routine and facade and nonsense, when we can simply celebrate who we are, a wonder of nature, a thriving, beautiful, complex, needy, moody - I mean right? Plants teach me so much about the human condition, and my reaction to them - how long is she going to talk about plants? LOL…So I brought home a Ficus Aubrey, and the horticulturist was like - oh she's less finicky than the fiddle (the fiddle leaf fig) which I've never had issues with so I'm like, I got this. And we do that in life, right? We say to a brand-new situation, Oh I've done something like this before so I've got this, but life is so complicated and the situation is new, we have no idea how it's going to play out, but we downplay or overinflate our capabilities, our ego wakes up, right? And takes charge, and then we fail, the Ficus Aubrey is fine now if ya'll are worried about her, it was touch and go there for a bit but we're in a good place! Few! Because it hurts me if they're hurting (the plants) because I do believe we have a connection to all living things and to take care of them is important, like caring for each other, it's important. Compassion and empathy make lasting impressions on people. We've heard the saying, they may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel. That's powerful. For example, my plants, they'll show me how they feel, if they droop, or change color, or drop leaves or reach up, they're communicating a need, and as people we also communicate and need others, we need connection, we all want healing, we all want to be loved and accepted, right? That's a fundamental human right, to be treated with dignity and respect. We do this thing where if we’re stuck in a routine, we never leave it – I encourage people to take chances, try new things, and celebrate this amazing life! #livingmybestlife To connect with Lauren, visit www.laurencorsillo.orgSending you loving-kindness, Lauren
Welcome TO TULSA
Welcome to Tulsa, OK! What a journey, and I couldn’t have done it without the support of my loves, my God, and the universe. And my daily gratitude and meditation practice, which I’ll share with you now. It’s a daily practice, being optimistic. I write in my gratitude journal, I identify three good things in my life (thanks Shawn Achor), and Chuck and I have a happiness jar that we add to regularly, and we read our gratitudes aloud on New Year’s Day (thank you Liz Gilbert)! Wherever you go, there you are! I bring my life and my progress and my authentic self with me now wherever I go. I said goodbye to my ego-driven life a while back, and it was the best decision I ever made. I asked for help, and I received it in spades! I’ve always loved that idiom…to have a lot of something, to live a life of abundance. But when it came to help, I needed it, a lot of help, and God and Universe provided. Life is a journey, and I had to walk through the storm of my past with some amazing healers, to come out the other side a healed and whole woman. I went from having walls that held a lot of pain and anger and tears and unresolved trauma, to being open and living an authentic life filled with connection to friends, to family, and to myself. My inner dialogue improved, and I rekindled the light inside myself. My self-worth, my freedom, my desires, all came back to me, and I was living a new chapter of my life in Atlanta, Georgia. Which brings me to Tulsa…I had no idea that the universe was going to send me to Tulsa, Oklahoma, but I knew I had to go. I agreed to follow my husband, my person, as he accepted a promotion and a new role with his company. I knew that God and the universe had our back,even though I knew I’d miss my friends and my career that I’d built would have to be on hold for a minute. We have a saying in our house, it’ll work out, or it’ll work out.” And so it is… Now I find myself in this new, sunny, vibrant, slower-paced city. I’ve found a small soul tribe that I invite over to my home once a week, our Gratitude and Meditation Circle, where we gather to pray, share in our daily gratitude, and meditate (thank you Calm app). I’m so blessed that I’ve found a practice partner with, and I will soon be an LPC in the state of Oklahoma. I’m grateful that I didn’t jump into my career when we moved. I took time to heal, to mourn my mom, to mourn my life in Atlanta, and to take some time to simply be, to reap what I’ve sown. I’ve been fast paced my whole life, I’ve always worked a full-time job, I’ve never really taken more than a two-week break. I’m grateful for the past few months and what I’ve learned. I created space, I let work take a back seat to my life, I experienced what it felt like to slow down. And it wasn’t easy! My self-talk was urging me to get after it, to hustle hard. But what could I do? In my heart I wasn’t ready, I needed time to heal, to rest, to read, to meditate, to take trips and visit with friends and family. I’ve also planned future vacations to places on my bucket list (Greece 2020)! Today I can look back on the past few months and see my progress. And I’ve taken time to grow in my hobbies, too! Interior design, feng shui, and horticulture! I love our new home, new connections, and our new plant babies! And I look forward to what is coming next. I set the intention a while back that in the fall I will be ready to get back into the counseling chair. And so it is. More on that next time my friends! May you be well, full of love, joy and happiness, LC
““The energy of the mind is the essence of life.” -Aristotle